Life isn’t about avoiding pain, feelings – any feeling! Even uncomfortable feelings like hunger, addiction, craving, fear, anxiety, depression. It is about learning to lean into those feelings, relax into them, wrap them in compassion, and then send them on their way.
In meditation, we practice being with our thoughts – outside them, not inside them, letting them go, neither repressing them, nor getting swept up in them. We label them “thinking” and let them go.
Feelings are like the thoughts of the heart – and we can treat them the same way as thoughts, even though they feel more powerful. We can label them “feeling,” look at them curiously, without judgement, without a previous narrative to amplify them, without any labels, then let them go, and return again to the self, to the beautiful expansiveness that we are.
If life is groundless, then to “beat it” we must join it – we must become as dynamic and expansive as life.
Next time you feel a craving, an addiction, a pang or some sort of discomfort, try sitting with it for one and a half minutes, without assigning it any labels, or any narrative. Try to feel it as objectively and curiously as you can. Do not label it good or bad, do not panic, do not let your mind leap ahead to the events that “usually” follow such a feeling.
Allow the feeling to be. Allow yourself to be.
Maybe then that feeling will dissolve, maybe it will point you to another feeling, maybe it will teach you.
There is an incredible alchemy to humans. We can turn fear into love.