If you want to be successful and happy in life, then knowing yourself is one of the most important ways to accomplish this. If you don’t understand how your own brain ticks, then you won’t know what it is that truly makes you happy, and you won’t know which kinds of people you should spend time with, which kind of job you should do, or which kind of person you should date.
Once you understand your own motivations and your own issues, you can work to make a life that you will find truly rewarding. You can find yourself a mission statement, and you can work to improve on the areas in which you’re lacking. So how do you go about discovering more about who you are and how you think? Is it possible to be completely objective when thinking about your personality? Read on to find out how you can explore your own personality and get a deeper understanding of your own mind.
There is a lot of confusion among lay-persons as to what meditation is and what it means. If you’re worried that it’s necessarily ‘mystical’ in any way though, then you shouldn’t be. Meditation actually describes a whole range of different processes and techniques that only really have one important factor in common: they all involve attempting to control our own thoughts and actively avoid thinking about certain things.
One type of meditation that can be particularly useful when you’re trying to learn about yourself, is a kind called ‘mindfulness’. Essentially this is a form of meditation in which the practitioner doesn’t attempt to ‘silent’ their thoughts at all, but rather aims to simply sit quietly and ‘listen’ to the contents of their own mind. Often you will see this described as watching your thoughts go past ‘like clouds’. Sit down somewhere quiet then, and then just let the thoughts come without trying to dictate them. What kinds of things do you think naturally? Are these positive things? Or are they things that might be harming you and that you might like to change?
Horoscopes and Star Signs
A lot of people believe in horoscopes and star signs, and indeed they do often seem to offer a startling insight into our character. Whether or not you are a believer though, reading these descriptions of your personality and of your future can actually be useful – simply because it forces you to reflect on who you are and on who you are not. As you hear each personality trait described, you will either be surprised it’s correct, or curious as to why it’s not – and in the process you will learn more about your own personality.
There are plenty of personality tests out there on the web that offer to tell you which ‘Friends character’ you are, or what kind of dog. These can only tell you so much however – the more enlightening ones are the proper psychometric tests used by psychologists and by experimenters. A good example is the Meyers-Briggs personality test. This one measures your personality on four scales, such as introversion/extra-version, and from there attempts to create a portrait of your personality. This test in particular is interesting, because it looks at how people process information and make decisions, and it can actually help to shed light on a lot of unusual personality quirks.
There are a number of exercises you can find online, or from a therapist, that are designed to help take a more objective look at who you are. An example is the ‘eulogy’ exercise, in which you are required to write a fake eulogy for yourself as you would want it to be written. When you create this, you learn what you want your legacy to be, and in the process you learn what your priorities are. Are you living your life in such a way as to make those your main ambitions? Because if not, then it may be time to change.
Other exercises can involve talking to an empty chair, or imagining that you are talking to a friend and giving yourself advice. All these things can help you to get a better understanding of who you are, and to get more out of life as a result.
Today’s feature writer, Guilherme Cherman, is a freelance blogger who writes articles for Como Fazer. His articles are usually concerned with lifestyle and personality. Some of his articles contain horoscopes as well. He likes being with his family and enjoys outdoor activities.